I know I had disappeared but well writer’s block had caught up with me.
My oh my, y’all last March 23rd your girl hit that quarter-century milestone. I am one of those people that are obsessed with their birthdays. How did I spend my 24th year? Well indoors like everyone else, which made it feel like this year’s birthday came too soon but hey the time had come, I guess. In today’s, Unpacking Fridays I will unpack 25 lessons I learned in the past 25 years.
- Laugh A Lot
It’s honestly the best medicine. Life has its way of throwing crazy things at us but always chuckle and keep going.
- Action and reaction are opposite and equal
You must be telling yourself, ugh, Newton again?! Well, yes I love Physics. But I also like this law even more because it not only applies to motion but everything in our lives. The energy you give is the one you get back, I can call it karma. Never regret the time, attention, or even money given to good causes; trust me it will always return in better forms.
- Become a lifelong student
Being able to learn is the first reason this blog was able to see the light of day. Life is a journey filled with lessons so I always consider my brain to be an information-sucking sponge. I may not be in school but will always find ways and things to learn. Not only will this serve you later in your life but it’s a chance to discover yourself and your life passion.
- Tell your loved ones you love them
Life is full of ups and downs and you never know what tomorrow will bring. Always check on your loved ones, be there for them(well as much as you can), and always tell them you love them.
- You are perfectly imperfect
I am a strong atelophobe and that leaves very little to no room to let go even a second of my life. But I am growing to understand that perfection does not exist and all I have to strive for is giving it the best I can.
- You will be rich again, you will be poor again
Life is an ever-changing journey and no phase lasts forever. There will always be high moments and low moments; the most important thing is to remember tomorrow is never the same as today, so live today to the best of your abilities.
- Create a routine
having a routine has helped me manage my stress and anxiety. It gave me a sense of control over my days and to be honest I am more productive now.
- Try meditation at least once
Life can sometimes become overwhelming and lead to loss of your internal calm and balance. Meditation can be very helpful as it can help you restore your calm and peace. There you go, breath.
- Take care of your health
I can’t stress this enough, but it’s crucial. . In 2014, I was diagnosed with anemia which was not life-threatening then and all I needed was to adjust my diet. After seeing the doctor I did what was recommended for the following three months but well dropped the ball at some point. Two years later, I was in college and started feeling weak, I was pale and all which led to me going for a check-up. My results came back so alarming that doctors were grateful for having got there in time. I was able to be treated. Even though I am still on medication today, I need to tell you how important that doctor’s yearly visit is, how important it is to watch your diet, exercise, and rest well.
- Never be afraid to seek help
Asking for help doesn’t make you weak or incapable, it just means you need additional support. It can mean getting help with your groceries. Maybe you’re asking someone to get something off the top shelf since you’re you are just as short as I am. You could be asking for help when you don’t know what decision to make. Maybe you don’t know what to do and you need someone. More importantly, never feel ashamed seeking professional help when your brain doesn’t feel in the right state. Help can come in all sorts of ways and it should never be looked down upon when someone needs it.
- Drink water
This may sound obvious and all but again a reminder won’t hurt. Please drink water your body will thank you, your hair and skin will glow and your digestion will be easy.
- Always wear sunscreen ( yeesss, you read right, suuuun-screeen)
The depletion of the ozone layer has increased our risk of sun damage from harmful UV rays. (Oh well, yes this is us)
Sunscreen protects us from all harmful UVA and UVB rays and we are safe from sunburn or even worse skin cancer.
So please always wear sunscreen, be it indoors or outdoors, sun, rain, or thunder.
- Never shop hungry…. Or tipsy
I don’t know how much I can stress this one but DO NOT DO IT!! Period. Actually, it has been scientifically proven that humans are more likely to make more purchases when they are hungry or tipsy for that matter. Hunger makes us pursue food for satisfaction, but it is also not uncommon that it drives us towards inedible forms of satisfaction.
- Money doesn’t buy happiness but it sure can buy perfume
Psychologists and other professionals will tell you that there is a certain point where money stops making you happy. I can see that to be true; you don’t need all the money in the world. But let’s be honest there will always be many instances in life when you will see that money is an evil necessity and guess what you need it.
- Save, save, save
As we just saw that money is an evil necessity, this is a reminder that you will never have enough money. When you commit yourself to learning to save as early as possible, you’ll make it a habit to not spend money on unnecessary things. You’re likely to set up a budget and try to cut out things you don’t need. Setting up a budget will give you control over your money. Remember life is not linear, rainy days will always be creeping around the corner
- Let go, and let God
Life always gives us reasons to worry, frown and ponder on the little things. The earlier you learn to let go, the sooner you will meet happiness.
- Get a plant
Plants are some of the greatest sources of happiness and satisfaction. Not only do they embellish your home but they make you feel good.
- Sometimes you just need a day off
Never feel bad taking a day off, most of us are carrying more than we should even without wrapping our brain around it. It is always okay to want to reconnect with yourself and disconnect from the chaos of the world.
- Know Your Worth, Then Add Tax
People are cheap. They will try to give you what they think you deserve, but you know better than that. Know that you are worth more than you think and always try to strive for that and then some more. You would be surprised by what you will get in return.
- Do not settle for less
Comfort zone will always be a good place to visit but remember to move on. Growth comes with change, taking risks, and refusing to stay stagnant. Just do not settle
- You will not always be right
This one has been a hard pill for me to swallow. But it is the reality of life, you will be wrong, do not take it as a failure but a learning opportunity and just laugh about it.
- Find your tribe
Humans are social animals and you are no different. Find good people to do this journey with you as it will often feel lonely and always remember to choose quality over quantity.
- Own journey, own pace
You might think you are not doing great just because someone else is somewhere different in their lives. Remember this is your own journey, you are not racing against anyone, just focus on your pace.
- Be kind to others
This is the easiest and cheapest thing you can do.
- Live A Life Of Gratefulness & Thankfulness
God has blessed you with SO much, He has adorned you with gifts and opportunities and will continue to do so. Take those gifts and be grateful, be thankful for them, even during the most difficult seasons of life.
Now Do It
We learn every day and teach each other. I hope you’ve learned a few things from my own life experiences. Now, let me go back to figuring out how to beat my writers’ block. See you in two weeks, hopefully